How to get over the “All or Nothing” mindset

Wouldn’t it be nice if there were seat belts on the healthy living wagon we all tend to fall off of from time to time? Wouldn’t it be great if there was something or someone that could help us stay on that healthy living wagon? 

We are in the business of getting lasting, sustainable results for our clients.  Our mission is to inspire people to enhance their lives by forming healthful habits they can sustain for a lifetime.

We study the obstacles that get in the way of people achieving long-term success.  In our business we have been able to remove a lot of the barriers that get in the way of people committing to regular exercise – scheduling issues, not knowing what to do when they get to the gym, motivation to complete the plan once they get to the gym, not knowing if their form and technique is on point, etc…

The “all or nothing” mindset can be a major reason why people fall off the healthy living bandwagon.

In this message, we hope to shift your mindset so this doesn’t happen to you.

First, let’s explain the story with our imaginary friend Sally.

Sally is ready to get in shape! She throws out all the junk food in her house and signs up to hit the gym 5 times per week!

She decides that she is going to ‘eat healthy’ so she buys all of the health food she can find – rice cakes, frozen veggie burgers, calorie controlled frozen dinners and more rabbit food.

Motivation is through the roof her first week or two…maybe even three. Then reality creeps in. She misses sugar. She misses real food.  Cravings are legit. She’s sore and tired. Things were “easier” before she started this new venture.

Something comes up you fill in the blank her best friend from college comes for a visit, her 3-year-old gets sick with the strep throat, work gets crazy busy SO she misses a few days in the gym.  Then she justifies skipping a few more days in the gym. It’s a stressful time, she is out of her routine, her habits haven’t become SOLID yet and she finds herself back in the bakery because she’s been working hard and she “deserves” it.

Just like that she is off the wagon.

She has gone from ALL.


Within 6-12 weeks of starting the journey, Susan is right back to where she started – eating what she wants and not working out…except now she’s got a gym membership bill to pay for each month.

It does not have to be that way.

I’m not sharing this story to be negative! I’m sharing it because this is the reality that many of the people we’ve worked with here at Wilcox Wellness & Fitness have faced in the past, and they’ve been able to change that story.

We understand that slip-ups happen and we help mentally prepare our clients to get back on the train.  It’s simple – what happened yesterday does not matter – it is the choice that you make in this very moment that counts for your future.

Instead of going from 0 to 60mph overnight, if Sally had taken less of an all or nothing approach, she would still be on track. Defining a REAL, sustainable plan of action is one of the top ways we help our clients get results.

We also keep it super simple.  We have 5 Habits for Massive Impact that we want clients to commit to…  All we want you to do is: start your day with breakfast, nourishing yourself throughout the day with healthful snacks, eat whole foods only, drink half your body weight in fluid ounces of water, and making it to just 3 training sessions per week.  Follow these habits just 80% of the time and you will be good as gold!

We also will encourage you to be slow to implement these changes.  Focus on one habit at a time and build off that momentum. If you’ve ever tried to change everything overnight, you know it rarely works. Maybe you even relate to Sally’s story or you know someone who relates.

If you want to get out of the all or none mindset (or know someone who needs to), let’s chat!  Click here to schedule a phone call to learn more about how we work with our clients and to see if we would be a good fit for you.  

There is a better way, and we can help you navigate a better path.

Happy Training!


P.S. There is no cost or obligation to speak with us, so simply click here and let us know you’re ready to chat. Together we can help you find real, sustainable success.

Paige Wilcox

About Paige Wilcox

This blog, Inspire Healthy Living is focused on actionable strategies for healthy living that are going to make a major impact on your life. I will be working with our trainer team to cover a broad range of health and fitness topics that can be easily integrated into your daily life. At Wilcox Wellness & Fitness, we are passionate about helping people live their very best life and we believe that the foundation for your best life starts with a commitment to healthy living.